If you’re in a relationship erectile dysfunction (ED for short) isn’t just your problem, it’s your partner’s problem too. ED has effects on any partnership that go far beyond the bedroom, and the results can sometimes be devastating. ED treatment starts with a chat with a GP, but that’s just the beginning of a wider holistic approach. There’s also an opportunity to build better communication, greater trust and intimacy - and ultimately an even better sex life.
Erectile dysfunction - the wider problem
Nothing hits a man’s self confidence and self esteem harder than erectile dysfunction. Even when you know that ED is a common problem that GPs are used to dealing with, the inability to achieve an erection can be a massive shock to the system. It can also damage a woman’s self confidence too, sometimes on a subconscious level. Women will often worry that their partner no longer finds them attractive, or is having an affair and has lost interest in sex with them. Women can often feel hurt and rejected on a very deep level, even when they understand ED as a medical condition.
Beating the Spiral of Worry
One of the immediate results of ED is anxiety. If your ED is caused by a deeper health problem like diabetes or high blood pressure the worries may be compounded. If the causes aren’t obvious your mind may start racing in search of answers. When your ED causes tension with your partner your worries can spiral into a vicious circle. Even if your ED has a simple physical cause it can take on an extra psychological component. Part of the key to successfully treating ED (apart from seeking medical help) is to manage your anxiety and overcome your natural worries.
Communication is the Key
If you can talk frankly with your partner about what’s going on you’ll have already taken a big step towards overcoming ED, and you will probably save yourself a lot of grief. It may not be easy to talk about being unable to achieve an erection, but it’s a chance to reassure her that you still find her attractive and that you’re committed to the relationship. Avoiding the issue, being evasive, or taking medication secretly aren’t healthy solutions. You have a chance to reinforce your relationship by building trust and intimacy and to improve your sex life with better communication.
